Raising Kids While Trying to Heal Myself: Because healing doesn’t wait for perfect timing — and motherhood doesn’t come with a pause button.

There’s a version of me my kids will never meet — and thank God for that.

She was exhausted. Overwhelmed. Running herself ragged trying to be everything for everyone. She never said no. She didn’t know how to ask for help. She didn’t even know what she needed most of the time — because she was so disconnected from herself.

But that version of me? She still showed up. For school drop-offs. For birthday parties. For middle-of-the-night stomach bugs and teenage meltdowns and everything in between. She loved the hell out of her kids — she just hadn’t learned how to love herself yet.

Healing while parenting is messy. There’s no off switch. No retreat. You’re still wiping counters and making orthodontist appointments and dealing with laundry and dinner — while also trying to unlearn years of trauma, people-pleasing, shame, and survival mode.

You don’t get silence and solitude to figure it all out. You get ten-minute windows in between the chaos. You get moments.

And for me — those moments came through writing.

I started STG Wellness not because I had time, but because I didn’t.
I didn’t have time to ignore myself anymore. I didn’t have time to keep modeling burnout and silence and perfectionism. I didn’t have time to pretend I was okay when I wasn’t.

So I started writing.

And slowly, I came back to myself. Not perfectly. Not quickly. But honestly.

One thing I fiercely believe as a parent?

We have to own our shit.

We have to say, “I messed that up.”

We have to say, “I was short with you because I’m carrying too much right now — and I’m sorry.”

We have to show our kids that adults can make mistakes and still be good, still be safe, still be healing.

Because the old model of parenting — the one that said “Do as I say, not as I do” — that’s done.

Our kids need to see us real.
They need to see us mess up and repair.
They need to see us ask for help.
They need to see what it looks like to choose yourself — not once, but every damn day.

That’s why I write. That’s why I created these journals.
Because healing in the middle of motherhood isn’t impossible — it’s necessary.

❤️ Jamie
Fierce Listener. Cycle Breaker. Truth Obsessed.

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