The Questions We’re Afraid to Ask Ourselves
Let’s be honest — most of us already know the answers. We just don’t want to say them out loud. Not yet. Not until we’re ready to deal with what those answers might unravel.
As a therapist, I’ve worked with women who look like they have it all together on paper — the job, the kids, the partner, the house. But shiny on paper doesn’t mean shit when your soul feels empty. Behind the scenes, they’re unraveling. Anxious. Overwhelmed. Disconnected from who they really are. Trying so hard to keep everything running that they forget to check in with themselves. And the scariest part? They know something has to change — but don’t know where to begin.
Because the truth is, answering the hard questions disrupts things. It forces us to look at what’s not working — in our routines, in our relationships, in ourselves. And that can feel terrifying, especially when we’ve spent years trying to keep the peace and hold it all together.
But here’s what I want you to hear:
Peace that requires you to abandon yourself isn’t peace. It’s performance. The real freedom — the kind that settles deep in your bones — comes when you start telling the truth. Not to everyone else first. To yourself. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it might rattle what you’ve built. But it also might lead you back to who you actually are — before the world told you who to be.
You get to ask:
• What am I tolerating that’s slowly killing my spirit?
• Who do I become when I stop trying to keep everyone else comfortable?
• What would my life look like if I stopped settling?
These aren’t easy questions. But they’re the ones that change lives. The research backs this up. Multiple studies have shown that reflective journaling — especially when practiced consistently — increases self-awareness, emotional clarity, and decision-making confidence. When you write honestly, you slow down the chaos and reconnect with your values. You see patterns. You see possibilities. You start to get real about what needs to shift.
If you’re ready to stop running from the truth and start getting honest about what you want, start small. Sit with a question. Write what comes up. Cry if you need to. Laugh if it surprises you. But most of all, don’t abandon yourself — even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.
❤️ Jamie
Truth-teller. Firestarter. Someone who fiercely believes in your healing.
About STG Wellness
Founded by Jamie Codispoti, LCSW, STG Wellness creates bold, guided journals that help women reconnect with their truth, regulate their nervous systems, and reclaim their fire. Because healing deserves space — and so do you.
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