When Is It My Turn? Because keeping everyone else afloat doesn’t mean you should drown.

Moms are the schedulers. The food shoppers. The birthday gift buyers. The homework helpers. The ones who remember the doctor appointments, the class parties, the permission slips, the soccer games, and the fact that the dog is almost out of flea meds.

We plan meals. We clean up after them. We throw in a load of laundry at 10pm and still manage to answer a text about who’s bringing snacks to the team banquet.

We hold jobs. We manage relationships. We try to keep friendships going, remember family birthdays, schedule oil changes, and somehow also keep a house running.

And in the middle of all of that… We’re supposed to take care of ourselves?

Let me be really clear:
Yes. We absolutely are. And it has to be non-negotiable.

Taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury. It’s not something you do if there’s time. It’s something you do so you can survive — and actually feel like you’re living, not just managing a never-ending list of everyone else’s needs.

I used to think self-care had to look like bubble baths or yoga retreats.
Now I know it looks like this:
    •    Waking up 10 minutes earlier to journal because that’s your only quiet time.
    •    Saying no to another thing you just don’t have the capacity for.
    •    Asking someone else to make dinner — and not apologizing for it.
    •    Putting your phone in the other room and walking outside, even for five minutes.
    •    Looking at your own face in the mirror and asking, “What do I need today?”

Nobody is going to swoop in and hand you a day off.
Nobody is going to magically create time for you to recharge.

So we have to do it ourselves.
We have to get bold about it.
We have to get clear.
We have to draw boundaries.
And we have to make taking care of ourselves a sacred, non-negotiable act.

Because if we don’t? We lose ourselves. And I don’t know about you — but I refuse to disappear in the name of being “everything for everyone.”

You don’t need permission.

But if you’ve been waiting for a sign?
This is it.

Take care of her.
She’s you.

❤️ Jamie
Cycle Breaker. Overfunctioner in Recovery. Mom who now puts herself at the top of the damn list — every single day. Fierce advocate for women who are done disappearing.

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