You’re Not Hard to Love — You’re Just Tired of Settling for Less Than You Deserve
If you’ve ever sat there wondering:
“Am I asking for too much?”
“Maybe I’m just hard to love…”
“Why do I always feel like I’m too intense, too emotional, too deep?”
Let me say this clearly:
You are not too much. You are not hard to love. You are just done settling for crumbs.
You want connection — not convenience.
• Conversations that go beneath the surface
• Emotional safety, not just physical attraction
• Someone who doesn’t flinch when you’re real, raw, or messy
• A partner who meets you where you are — not one who asks you to dim your light
But somewhere along the way, you were taught to shrink. To be agreeable. Chill. Low-maintenance. To not need too much.
To “be easy to love.” And now? You’re exhausted from performing in relationships that never truly see you.
Let me tell you the truth:
You are allowed to want more. You are allowed to walk away from almost-good-enough. You are allowed to say: “This isn’t bad — but it’s not what I deserve.” You are allowed to stop auditioning for love that should’ve been unconditional.
You don’t have to explain your standards. You don’t have to be grateful for someone who doesn’t fully choose you. You don’t have to keep re-shaping yourself just to be palatable. You don’t want too much. You just want what’s real. And that’s not something you should ever feel guilty for.
That’s why The No Apologies Journal exists. To say the things you’ve been afraid to admit. To write the truth that’s been building in your chest. To give yourself back the love you’ve been begging someone else to offer.
Start there. The rest gets clearer when you do.
❤️ Jamie
Truth-teller. Firestarter. Someone who fiercely believes in your healing.
Ready to stop shrinking in relationships?
