Stop Shrinking to Be Chosen: You’re Not Too Much — They’re Just Not Enough

There’s a version of you you’ve been taught to shrink. The one that feels too emotional, too opinionated, too intense, too driven, too independent, too deep, too “extra.”

You’ve probably been told to:
    •    Be less sensitive.
    •    Stop overthinking.
    •    Lower your standards.
    •    Chill out.
    •    Be easy to love.

And at some point, maybe you started to believe them.

But let me tell you the truth:

You are not too much. You’re just too real for people who haven’t done their own work.

If you’ve ever:
    •    Watered yourself down to keep the peace
    •    Bit your tongue even when you wanted to scream
    •    Let someone choose a version of you that felt easier to digest
    •    Apologized for having needs
    •    Made yourself smaller to fit into someone else’s comfort zone…

Then you know exactly what I’m talking about. That kind of shrinking doesn’t make you loved — it just makes you disappear.

And you weren’t born to disappear. You were born to be a disruptor.

To speak what’s real.
To want depth, not surface.
To walk away from what doesn’t align — even when it’s scary as hell.

You don’t have to pretend you’re okay with crumbs.
You don’t have to stay somewhere just because it once felt like home.

You’re allowed to outgrow people.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to tell the truth — even if your voice shakes.

That’s what The No Apologies Journal is about.

It’s not soft.
It’s not sugar-coated.
It’s not here to make other people comfortable.

It’s here to remind you that your voice matters — not the edited, filtered, polite version. The real one.

So if you’re ready to stop being palatable and start being powerful?

Let’s go.
This is your season of unshrinking.


❤️ Jamie
Truth-teller. Firestarter. Someone who fiercely believes in your healing.

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