I’m Not for Everyone — and That’s Not an Apology

I used to want to be the one everyone liked.

The easy one.
The one who never rocked the boat.
The one who could walk into any room and make everyone feel comfortable.

And I did it well —Until I realized how much of myself I was abandoning in the process.

Because the truth is…
I’m not for everyone.
I’m direct. I ask hard questions. I say the thing out loud.
I don’t sugarcoat. I don’t coddle.

But I’m also soft as hell when it matters. I show up for people in ways most never see. I feel everything deeply — and I carry the stories I hold with reverence and fire.

Here’s something else you might not expect:

I’m actually really quiet in unfamiliar situations. If I don’t know the people, I tend to hang back. I watch. I listen. I feel out the energy in the room before I say much. And for a long time, I thought that made me too much and not enough all at once. Too intense. Too sensitive. Not outgoing enough. Not likable enough.

But that’s just how I’m wired.
I lead with presence, not performance. And I’ve learned to trust that the right people will feel me — even when I’m quiet.

Because I’m not here to be palatable. I’m not here to be digestible.
I’m not here to be easy to swallow.

I’m here to tell the truth. To hold space. To create change.
To help women come home to themselves — without apology.

And if that rubs someone the wrong way?

That’s okay.
Nobody is for everybody.
And that’s not a flaw — it’s freedom.

That means I won’t shrink to keep the peace. I won’t water myself down in my writing or my relationships. I won’t sit in rooms where authenticity costs too much.

Because I’ve spent years doing that. Years trying to “read the room,” adjust my tone, soften the truth. And it cost me my clarity.

So if I’m not your cup of tea, I’m good with that.
I’m not here for mass approval.
I’m here for impact. For fire. For truth. For freedom.


❤️ Jamie

Present. Powerful. Unapologetically quiet when I need to be.

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